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Living Well was honored by AARP’s Social Impact Award as “a simple mind-body-spirit program for seniors, adults and teens of any faith, or no faith.”



Living Well offers a single set of skills that can  help the entire Caring Team (i.e., patient, caregiver, volunteer, aides, professionals) improve their communication while collaborating on improving the outcomes of medical, emotional and/or spiritual care.

It is available in a video based format (to be launched in the Fall of 2024 on the LearnWorlds platform to be accessible from any smartphone, tablet or PC. .  It is based on Caregiver Stories and Stress Solutions (a 60 page booklet) and the Less Stress, Better Health and More Love workbook (see page 2 for an overview and page 3 for goals that participants can select.

Caregiver Stories and Stress Solutions.offers ten short stories, including five about Dr. Tom DeLoughry’s stumbles and successes as his mother’s caregiver.  This free book, as well as the accompanying Less Stress, Better Health and More Love workbook, developed with Kathy DeLoughry, offers dozens of well-researched solutions to help caregivers and their loved ones to:

  • solve each piece of their Wellness Puzzle and
  • work more closely with the professionals who provided their medical, emotional, spiritual and complementary care
  • improve the satisfaction of both caregivers and aides

It is the starting point for online program and workshops (see below) being developed by the Living Well Community Collaborative, a consortium of non-profits and individuals who will learn from each other’s successes and stumbles

This evidence-based program integrates musicstory-telling, videos and eLearning to help participants.  It also stimulates support WITH and BETWEEN the professionals who provide medical, emotional and spiritual care – as well those who offer alternative strategies such as acupuncture, chiropractic, meditation, massage, tai chi, yoga and more.


The simple, yet versatile, skills we teach (as outlined by two poems and four Satisfaction Skills) can:

  • help three generations to help themselves and each other
  • reduce the burnout of caregivers and the turnover of aides
  • prevent or control chronic illness
  • increase the beauty (i.e., the love, oneness, connectedness, or awe) you will enjoy inside you and around you
  • improve the wisdom of your decisions


Our strategies are summarized by a simple poem that is detailed on the back cover of our Less Stress, Better Health and More Love workbook (as illustrated below).   This workbook is published under a Creative Commons license so you can use or improve our text or graphics  without seeking prior permission.

About 90 percent of  over 3,000 workshop  participants agree that this program  can help them to:

  • stop stress, at least for a moment, before your hours of peacefulness grow into days of satisfaction
  • control chronic illness
  • forgive themselves, others or God, (as evidenced in this evaluation of a typical workshop)

The core concepts and graphics in the Less Stress, Better Health and More Love workbook are published by Dr. Tom DeLoughry under a Creative Commons license  Thus, counselors, social workers, nurses, physicians, ministers and others may freely improve or distribute  any of the  Living Well content or graphics for use in their own materials, lectures and/or sermons without needing to seek prior permission.


Seniors, adults, teens and caregivers often struggle with a range of emotional and medical problems that are addressed by a bewildering array of solutions.   By contrast, Living Well uses an evidenced-based systems approach  to help participants Create a Happier Story while learning from their successes and stumbles  and collaborating closely the professionals who provide their medical, emotional and spiritual care.

Traditional approaches to care typically focus only on the most urgent symptoms or the current crisis while ignoring the other pieces of the Wellness Puzzle.

Often, the social determinants of health are ignored. “Patients” are encourged to be passive, rather than volunteering to help create a better world, even though volunteering, by itself is “good medicine” that can reduce lonliness, depression and mortality.  By contrast, two of our stories, Because of All the Pictures, and Like a Different Person, encourage participants to discuss the benefits of volunteering.  And, in our final workshop, Choices for Change encouraged participants to consider local social action initiatives as well action-oriented Spirit Groups and the rich resources for satisfaction available through AARP’s volunteer portal.


The core concepts and graphics of Living Well are published under a Creative Commons license so that counselors, social workers, nurses, physicians, ministers and others may freely improve or distribute  any of the core Living Well content or graphics for use in your own materials, lectures and/or sermons.  We will convene quarterly “continiuous improvements” meetings of the professionals, volunteers and aides that are using (and improving!) Living Well, so we can learn from each other’s experience.


We intend to evaluate the program through self-reported surveys; (that include CDC validated items measuring emotional and physical health).  In addition we will assess: caregiver burnout and turnover rates among home health and hospital aides who participate in “Living Well” as one component of their mandated annual training.


The program consists of:

  • Less Stress, Better Health and More Lovea four part online workshop for seniors, adults and teen 
    • each participant will creates a personal plan to reduce stress (and acheive medical and other goals) by using the Learning Poem (Choose your goals and check your signs. Take some steps and learn each time) .as prompted  by  “Success and Satisfaction Journal (see below)


The bottom of each page, prompts participants to “beware of blinder-vision”; use the Satisfaction Skills (i.e. awareness, appreciation, action and acceptance); and consider the “Wellness Puzzle.”


  • Improving Outcomes for Professsional providing Medical, Emotional and Spiritual Care – a two part program for professionals to discuss (in the first sesion) how using the “Learning Poem” can improve outcomes and how the “Satisfaction Skills” can improve communication and satisfaction with care.  In the second session, they discuss their successes and stumbles in implementing this with their patients, clients and/or members.
  • Living Well Collaborator’s Conference (as described above under “You’re invited to improve Living Well”) 

The Learning Poem helps particpants focus on one or two specific problems.   The Healing the Whole Person  Poem, (illustrated below as published on the back cover of the workbook)  reminds participants not to just focus on the most urgent problem or the immediate crisis.  Instead, after a Learning Plan is in place to address the emergency, the Planning Plan prompts them to: 1) use the Wellness Puzzle as a guide to assess all the factors that might help or harm; 2) find help in the community and online;  3) continue using the Satisfaction Skills to improve communication, reduce stress and avoid “blinder-vision”; and 4) use mutiple Learning Plans to address each specific issue and discuss it with the professionals who provide your medical, emotional and/or spiritual care.


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